“FAT IN LOOOOOOOVE!”

I love cooking, I love love, and I love making those that I love happy.

Unfortunately, when those 3 things were combined.. My ass got FAT. Most call it relationship weight and it can happen sooooo fast.. You know how it goes:

THE “BEGINNING”: This is the wining and dining” stage.. You know how dudes are in the early stage of trying to impress you, aka “put his bid in,” the constant dinner dates, breakfast dates, brunch dates, lunch dates, etc. Just an overabundance of fattening shit, lol. You’re feeling him too, he has decent credit and all of his teeth, so you’re damn sure not turning down an invite to see him, and more importantly, a good meal. So you go, duhhh!

WHEN THINGS GET MORE SERIOUS: Ok, so you’re not quite “official” as a couple.. But things are definitely getting more exclusive. You are spending a lot more time with each other, and may even begin to spend the night over each others places. And ummmmm.. I don’t know about y’all, but when he puts it DOWN in the bedroom, he has earned the big ass breakfast that you prepare for him.. And of course you’re not going to just sit and watch him eat pancakes and shit. You grab a plate as well. He gets rewarded with a meal. You’re busy trying to impress him, so you are preparing Sunday dinner on a damn Thursday, knowing damn well if you was home alone you would’ve just had a bowl of cereal for dinner. This continues until you finally become a…

COUPLE: It’s official. You’ve let him see you with your struggle braids after you take your Brazilian hair out. You’ve met his kids. He even leaves his Playstation at your house. This is when the real weight gain can occur. All that wining and dining at 5 star restaurants that was frequent in the beginning hasn’t completely stopped, but there has definitely been a decrease to those places and an increase of pizza and wing deliveries. This is when “what we gonna eat boo?” becomes the primary topic of discussion between the 2 of you. You’ve been spending way more time lounging with your boo, enjoying lazy Sundays.. And lazy Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays. You’re just laying around drinking and eating shit.

At this point, you may notice that your skinny jeans are making you look anything but, you have definitely put on a few pounds, but it’s cool! Your baby loves all of that. You become extremely comfortable, and your man (unless he has a death wish) knows to keep comments about your noticeable weight gain to himself. Time that used to be spent at the gym when you were single has been replaced by “boo lovin.” Your gym membership isn’t doing anything but collect dust.

And that is how one gains weight during a relationship! To be completely honest, I have had such a strong hesitation to being in a serious relationship during my weightloss journey. I know it sounds crazy, but I know how fast weight gain can occur, especially when you’re happy and in love. I’ve remained single (by choice) since I began this journey, simply because I don’t want the distraction or any setbacks with my progress. I am aware that this unrealistic to actually think that I have to remain single to remain healthy, but the thought of getting fat again is a no no.

My next serious relationship will definitely have to be on the same page as me: completely into fitness, lifting, and be cool with egg whites and shit sometimes, lol. If that ain’t for him, then he ain’t for me!

Mellenie
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